Some men really love playing mind games on women. I know I do. Playing mind games involves only ONE thing – the ability to send mixed signals and toy with someone’s emotions in the process.
Mind games are done for so many reasons. Some men play it just to test the woman – her love, loyalty, emotional capability, her level of understanding as well as her intelligence. Count me in.
Sometimes some other people play it when they really want to obtain something from the woman and they know that the only way to make her reconsider is to shock her by toying with her emotions. These guys are what I call the real players.
These real players or masters of the game have earlier recognize how weak and emotional women could be and they are using this female shortcoming all to their advantage.
But some other guys simply play it because…
OK. Wait I am just looking over my shoulders just to make sure no angry girl/s is close by because of what I am about to say next…
OK. I think it’s safe to talk now.
Listen, some other guys play it because they know it could be FUN, I mean absolutely pure fun, especially when you purposely stir the waters just to watch the fishes react and put the girl off-balance but hey…don’t say I told you so because if you do, I will surely deny it!
But I think you can also count me in once more!
***EVIL GRIN***
Unfortunately, some women will not be able to 'see through' this type of game the men are playing and this could even lead to fights, name calling, breakups, divorce and many other similar things of that nature.
So my advice to all my fellow male mind gamers, I know it could be a mischievously funny experience sometimes but please do remember to always recognize when 'enough is enough' and pull the plugs right there before you cross that point of no return with her…
Are you interested in knowing how he could be springing that mind game on you?
OK. If I am playing mind games with you, this is how I might go about it.
Making unreasonable and/or impossible demands
It normally happens without warning. All of a sudden you discover that he is now making unreasonable and/or impossible demands.
I might start suggesting and demanding that the two of us visit places or people I know you don’t normally want or like to visit. I will start demanding and insisting that you must watch my favorite TV sports program which I know that you don’t like.
He may even start preventing you from what you normally want to do like preventing you from leaving the house. All these start to happen without any forewarning.
Watch it please my dear girl. Don’t ever over react because he might just be testing you.
I am just testing your will power, your resolve, your flexibility and most importantly your strength.
If you really want to get into his heart, I believe this is the time to show him how understanding as well as diplomatic you can get.
Believe me when I say to your that if you pass this one test, you will always have every reason to celebrate because you’ve just increased my trust in you even though you may NEVER know it.
Suddenly stop calling her
This can be quite frustrating for the girl. If a girl is really interested, she will normally react to this type of mind game. In fact, sometimes even over react.
I know that many fearful thoughts will start circulating in her mind. She will really get worked up. She will start worrying and wondering if he is still interested, if he has seen or is seeing some one else, if I am in serious trouble, if he is ill or something. In fact, with so many terrifying thoughts in her mind, she will start worrying about if everything is still okay.
Questions, questions, questions with no answers.
And the guy who is supposed to provide the answers is nowhere to be seen. I am not calling and if you call, I am not answering.
Don’t go panicky girlfriend, just look at everything in perspective. Look at it this way. Maybe he is trying to see how much you needed him or how much you will miss him if he is no longer there.
And your behavior now might make things either worse or better for you. Only that you just don’t know which is which.
Hence my advice is never to panic or over react. Keep your head to avoid sending the wrong message.
I am just testing you to see if how suspicious you can get. I am also interested in knowing your depth of your interest and commitment in the whole relationship.
Talking to her in monosyllables and the Silent Treatment
Most women normally don’t like this. They enjoy steady conversation with their lovers and so once you start going monosyllabic on her she will immediately inquire to know if anything is the problem.
To make things worse for you, his replies to such inquires will also be in monosyllables and this might even be stretched into becoming some form of silent treatment.
I am aware that your mind goes spinning off the hook as you start wondering what is it that you've done wrong or where you have gone wrong.
Listen to me. Just relax.
Don’t panic or even fall into the temptation of saying something terrible you might come to regret later.
And that’s because…
He is just testing your ability to endure.
Becoming inexplicably aggressive
You start noticing that he has changed from that violence-hating nice guy you are used to, into this violent stranger you are looking at now.
Women are naturally averse to violence. So when he suddenly stouts shouting loud at you, you will surely have something to fear.
The aggression must not only be directed to the girl. It might also be extended to everybody, everyone around such that a feeling of fear is created or established in the girl’s mind.
I know it is not funny but it is your tensile strength and bravery that is being tested. The purpose of this terrible test is actually to see how much shock she can withstand. Nobody needs a coward as a mate.
Even though they may not easily want to admit it, most men need to know that you are that someone who can actually stand up to them and call them to order at the right times when they needed it the most…
It is what makes you a strong and fearless woman if you succeed on this one.
Refusing to give her usual expected compliments
This is one way to get a girl…any girl to boil. These species of humans love to be complimented and they don’t hide it. Men also love it, in fact, I think, even more than women, but while men manage to keep it on the low, women don’t…In fact,can’t!
Women love to be told how good looking and pretty and beautiful they are. Is that not why they spend so much time with the mirrors and at the beautician’s or hair saloon just to look good for the man?
They love to hear you say you like the end result of what they have laboriously done for you with your own mouth. They will surely be thrilled to hear you say you love their cooking, sense of fashion and even lovemaking skills…
Women love those words…those sweet nothings.
And what do you do? You don’t just say it! The guy acts as if he didn't notice anything. Almost as if she does not exist!
And then watch frustrations start to build up in her.
At this point, the girl might just be tempted to start throwing her tantrums.
Which is exactly what he is testing you to find. To find out if you are human and normal as well as your ability and preparedness to expect the unexpected...
Comparing her with others (especially her sister or friends)
This is the worst form of all the mind games you will ever play with a girl especially the one who is so into you.
By comparing her with others, especially when such comparisons come in the form of complaints, you are most likely trying to point out her shortcomings and faults.
We know that our faults are what makes us human but when you deliberately “force” someone to take another look at his or herself in that deriding manner, you are sending another different and terrible message all together.
It could be that you are truthfully trying to correct those faults but it could also mean that you are telling her that you can’t live with her anymore…
Whatever.
Bottom line: He purposely gets her agitated because he is now telling her that he thinks those other people are better than her.
Listen up girl. Don’t rush into the mistake of making rash judgments or even accusing him of something you don’t fully understand. You might want to retaliate by revealing or telling him things about those people just to show him that those people are not as great as he thought they are.
But before you do something like that, think again because...
He might just be testing you to find out how much you think of others. If you make the mistake of saying ugly, malicious, and accusing and even revealing secrets things about these other people, it goes a long way to show how much your people’s skills speak for you, how much you value others especially those who are close to you or those you “made the terrible mistake” of confiding in you.
Sadly though, it also goes to show how you might talk about him if that day when the chips are down should ever come…
Besides, he might be really interest in getting you change for the better. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts but then sometimes, it is only true friends who can tell you that type of truth and he wants you to know that he is indeed a true friend.
Flirting with others girls
By flirting with other girls, the guy’s intention could be to send her the message that his interest lies somewhere else and NOT entirely on her!
And women know how to get that type of message. I don’t just want to call itjealousy!
Mind gamers know that women are always watching out for those straying tendencies that men normally display even unconsciously.
And so what do they do? Of course, they give it to you! They will flirt and flirt and flirt just to make sure that you get that very message.
This is the plan and I am afraid to say it, it is NOT exactly what you are going to like to hear…
He is flirting to get your interest in him increased by stoking that latent jealousy within you and bringing it up to work on you for him.
***EVIL GRIN***
He could be flirting for fun now just to know what your reaction will be like should he on one bright tempting day [mistakenly] overstep the set bounds and actually take things a little bit far with the other girl/s.
He could also be doing it to give the unspoken message that he is planning on calling it quits mainly because he can no longer cope with your possessiveness or clinginess…
If it is for the first case, you just have to show him the love. That is what he really wants. That shows that you really want him.
If it is for the second case, you just go ahead and call him to order by letting him know that even though you know he thinks he is having fun now, that there is a limit to that that rubbish you can stomach. I bet you he will be shocked to find out that you know the game and this will definitely make him to man up at once. This will also show that you are intelligent and understanding, caring, responsible and still interested…
Let’s pray it will never be for the third case in which case you should be ready to do something about that clingy habit of yours which most men don’t like anyway or else…
Becoming secretive
Suddenly you notice your man is becoming more and more secretive.
If a man is playing this type of mind games, there are many ways he could he could go about this.
He might start by refusing to answer some of her questions. He might stop sharing and will start preferring to be on his own. He might start appearing distant and always forgetful.
Everything, just to signify gradual to complete lack of interest in you.
True mind gamers know that this strategy works like magic. If the woman in question is really interested, that is when she will become more interested in you and your affairs.
When you as a man starts creating doubts and suspicions on her mind, the expected response from her is normally to be that of worries assuming she is really interested. Again, by purposely creating so much doubts and suspicions on her mind, the mind gamer is trying to find out how she will react if ever she hears something not so great or something dark about him. She might also start worrying if you have heard something dark about her too…
He wants to see for himself if he can trust you. He wants to know how you react to gossips and hearsay. He is interested to know if you can actually think for yourself and discern the truth by separating the facts from the chaffs in the various circulating tidbits you might hear.
Any interested lady will want to know what is going on with her man. She will try to prove him wrong by showing him how loyal she can be and in the process, she might even reveal something secret about herself that he never knew which might even be the reason he launched this type of mind game in the first place, you know…?
***EVIL GRIN***
She will demand almost to the point of going hysteric that he tells her everything that is troubling or bothering him.
And then, he will be convinced that she is seriously concerned.
But on the contrary, if she is not showing any sign of concern, that means she lacks feelings which means she is not interested which means she is not caring which means she’s anything but loyal or trustworthy!
Be careful how you respond to this type of mind game. One wrong move and you can come off as someone who is not dependable or trustworthy and worse still, slander-loving.
It’s might also be the best time for the guy to review the future plans you earlier had together to see if you still featurin’.
Becoming Disinterested In Sex
One weapon women have over men is in sex. Men are insatiable and sometimes a man’s hatred or contempt for a woman will not even prevent him from having sex with her. That is one reason why prostitutes are still in business.
To him it’s just physical.
But when your guy who used to be all over you in the bedroom suddenly develops this inexplicable lack of sexual interest with you, then something must be amiss.
He knows you are supposed to be worried. And that means you are going to ask him for some explanation/s.
And if you do, it shows that you are observant and intuitive as well as ready for and interested in suggestions for improvement on whatever could be the cause of this worrisome development, as the case might be.
A big plus for you, I tell you.
But if you don’t?
Well…well…well…
Last Word
Some people, in fact many people, ‘specially women do hate the idea of someone playing mind games with them. They might think they are being “used” as pawns in such games.
Which might be true or not.
Besides, it is a very risky game to play. You may never be able to decipher what he is playing at and that means one daft wrong move and the whole cookie starts to crumble and fall apart like a pack of cards.
So you should be on the look out for some of these signs and master how to counter attack with superb deftness using that natural, powerful and potent gift of female intuition.
Always remember that mind games are normally launched without prior warning. So that is one very easy way to determine if and when the heat is on. When you notice this sudden and most awkward change in his behavior towards you, that is when you should tighten your seat belt and get ready for this type of ride which could get very unpredictable and awry.
The key is to NEVER say or do something that is quite unwholesome, immoral, irresponsible, mindless, harsh or regrettable. Always bear in it mind that sometimes, some (wicked) men are just looking for ridiculous excuses to break up. Please don't give him one real reason now…
As unbelievable or as funny as it may sound to you, I am fully aware that playing mind games can be used to cement any relationship and make it even stronger.
This is because as a psychological warfare, it can serve as an adventure or avenue to enable you to know who you are dealing with in the relationship. It can help you to build trust and love, access her mental capabilities in reasoning, thinking and understanding, as well as knowing your partner's emotional strength.
Oh, I almost forgot, it can be FUN because it can also provide the lovebirds with something to talk about, joke and laugh about later…most especially after that wonderful make up sex!
Mind games are done for so many reasons. Some men play it just to test the woman – her love, loyalty, emotional capability, her level of understanding as well as her intelligence. Count me in.
Sometimes some other people play it when they really want to obtain something from the woman and they know that the only way to make her reconsider is to shock her by toying with her emotions. These guys are what I call the real players.
These real players or masters of the game have earlier recognize how weak and emotional women could be and they are using this female shortcoming all to their advantage.
But some other guys simply play it because…
OK. Wait I am just looking over my shoulders just to make sure no angry girl/s is close by because of what I am about to say next…
OK. I think it’s safe to talk now.
Listen, some other guys play it because they know it could be FUN, I mean absolutely pure fun, especially when you purposely stir the waters just to watch the fishes react and put the girl off-balance but hey…don’t say I told you so because if you do, I will surely deny it!
But I think you can also count me in once more!
***EVIL GRIN***
Unfortunately, some women will not be able to 'see through' this type of game the men are playing and this could even lead to fights, name calling, breakups, divorce and many other similar things of that nature.
So my advice to all my fellow male mind gamers, I know it could be a mischievously funny experience sometimes but please do remember to always recognize when 'enough is enough' and pull the plugs right there before you cross that point of no return with her…
Are you interested in knowing how he could be springing that mind game on you?
OK. If I am playing mind games with you, this is how I might go about it.
Making unreasonable and/or impossible demands
It normally happens without warning. All of a sudden you discover that he is now making unreasonable and/or impossible demands.
I might start suggesting and demanding that the two of us visit places or people I know you don’t normally want or like to visit. I will start demanding and insisting that you must watch my favorite TV sports program which I know that you don’t like.
He may even start preventing you from what you normally want to do like preventing you from leaving the house. All these start to happen without any forewarning.
Watch it please my dear girl. Don’t ever over react because he might just be testing you.
I am just testing your will power, your resolve, your flexibility and most importantly your strength.
If you really want to get into his heart, I believe this is the time to show him how understanding as well as diplomatic you can get.
Believe me when I say to your that if you pass this one test, you will always have every reason to celebrate because you’ve just increased my trust in you even though you may NEVER know it.
Suddenly stop calling her
This can be quite frustrating for the girl. If a girl is really interested, she will normally react to this type of mind game. In fact, sometimes even over react.
I know that many fearful thoughts will start circulating in her mind. She will really get worked up. She will start worrying and wondering if he is still interested, if he has seen or is seeing some one else, if I am in serious trouble, if he is ill or something. In fact, with so many terrifying thoughts in her mind, she will start worrying about if everything is still okay.
Questions, questions, questions with no answers.
And the guy who is supposed to provide the answers is nowhere to be seen. I am not calling and if you call, I am not answering.
Don’t go panicky girlfriend, just look at everything in perspective. Look at it this way. Maybe he is trying to see how much you needed him or how much you will miss him if he is no longer there.
And your behavior now might make things either worse or better for you. Only that you just don’t know which is which.
Hence my advice is never to panic or over react. Keep your head to avoid sending the wrong message.
I am just testing you to see if how suspicious you can get. I am also interested in knowing your depth of your interest and commitment in the whole relationship.
Talking to her in monosyllables and the Silent Treatment
Most women normally don’t like this. They enjoy steady conversation with their lovers and so once you start going monosyllabic on her she will immediately inquire to know if anything is the problem.
To make things worse for you, his replies to such inquires will also be in monosyllables and this might even be stretched into becoming some form of silent treatment.
I am aware that your mind goes spinning off the hook as you start wondering what is it that you've done wrong or where you have gone wrong.
Listen to me. Just relax.
Don’t panic or even fall into the temptation of saying something terrible you might come to regret later.
And that’s because…
He is just testing your ability to endure.
Becoming inexplicably aggressive
You start noticing that he has changed from that violence-hating nice guy you are used to, into this violent stranger you are looking at now.
Women are naturally averse to violence. So when he suddenly stouts shouting loud at you, you will surely have something to fear.
The aggression must not only be directed to the girl. It might also be extended to everybody, everyone around such that a feeling of fear is created or established in the girl’s mind.
I know it is not funny but it is your tensile strength and bravery that is being tested. The purpose of this terrible test is actually to see how much shock she can withstand. Nobody needs a coward as a mate.
Even though they may not easily want to admit it, most men need to know that you are that someone who can actually stand up to them and call them to order at the right times when they needed it the most…
It is what makes you a strong and fearless woman if you succeed on this one.
Refusing to give her usual expected compliments
This is one way to get a girl…any girl to boil. These species of humans love to be complimented and they don’t hide it. Men also love it, in fact, I think, even more than women, but while men manage to keep it on the low, women don’t…In fact,can’t!
Women love to be told how good looking and pretty and beautiful they are. Is that not why they spend so much time with the mirrors and at the beautician’s or hair saloon just to look good for the man?
They love to hear you say you like the end result of what they have laboriously done for you with your own mouth. They will surely be thrilled to hear you say you love their cooking, sense of fashion and even lovemaking skills…
Women love those words…those sweet nothings.
And what do you do? You don’t just say it! The guy acts as if he didn't notice anything. Almost as if she does not exist!
And then watch frustrations start to build up in her.
At this point, the girl might just be tempted to start throwing her tantrums.
Which is exactly what he is testing you to find. To find out if you are human and normal as well as your ability and preparedness to expect the unexpected...
Comparing her with others (especially her sister or friends)
This is the worst form of all the mind games you will ever play with a girl especially the one who is so into you.
By comparing her with others, especially when such comparisons come in the form of complaints, you are most likely trying to point out her shortcomings and faults.
We know that our faults are what makes us human but when you deliberately “force” someone to take another look at his or herself in that deriding manner, you are sending another different and terrible message all together.
It could be that you are truthfully trying to correct those faults but it could also mean that you are telling her that you can’t live with her anymore…
Whatever.
Bottom line: He purposely gets her agitated because he is now telling her that he thinks those other people are better than her.
Listen up girl. Don’t rush into the mistake of making rash judgments or even accusing him of something you don’t fully understand. You might want to retaliate by revealing or telling him things about those people just to show him that those people are not as great as he thought they are.
But before you do something like that, think again because...
He might just be testing you to find out how much you think of others. If you make the mistake of saying ugly, malicious, and accusing and even revealing secrets things about these other people, it goes a long way to show how much your people’s skills speak for you, how much you value others especially those who are close to you or those you “made the terrible mistake” of confiding in you.
Sadly though, it also goes to show how you might talk about him if that day when the chips are down should ever come…
Besides, he might be really interest in getting you change for the better. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts but then sometimes, it is only true friends who can tell you that type of truth and he wants you to know that he is indeed a true friend.
Flirting with others girls
By flirting with other girls, the guy’s intention could be to send her the message that his interest lies somewhere else and NOT entirely on her!
And women know how to get that type of message. I don’t just want to call itjealousy!
Mind gamers know that women are always watching out for those straying tendencies that men normally display even unconsciously.
And so what do they do? Of course, they give it to you! They will flirt and flirt and flirt just to make sure that you get that very message.
This is the plan and I am afraid to say it, it is NOT exactly what you are going to like to hear…
He is flirting to get your interest in him increased by stoking that latent jealousy within you and bringing it up to work on you for him.
***EVIL GRIN***
He could be flirting for fun now just to know what your reaction will be like should he on one bright tempting day [mistakenly] overstep the set bounds and actually take things a little bit far with the other girl/s.
He could also be doing it to give the unspoken message that he is planning on calling it quits mainly because he can no longer cope with your possessiveness or clinginess…
If it is for the first case, you just have to show him the love. That is what he really wants. That shows that you really want him.
If it is for the second case, you just go ahead and call him to order by letting him know that even though you know he thinks he is having fun now, that there is a limit to that that rubbish you can stomach. I bet you he will be shocked to find out that you know the game and this will definitely make him to man up at once. This will also show that you are intelligent and understanding, caring, responsible and still interested…
Let’s pray it will never be for the third case in which case you should be ready to do something about that clingy habit of yours which most men don’t like anyway or else…
Becoming secretive
Suddenly you notice your man is becoming more and more secretive.
If a man is playing this type of mind games, there are many ways he could he could go about this.
He might start by refusing to answer some of her questions. He might stop sharing and will start preferring to be on his own. He might start appearing distant and always forgetful.
Everything, just to signify gradual to complete lack of interest in you.
True mind gamers know that this strategy works like magic. If the woman in question is really interested, that is when she will become more interested in you and your affairs.
When you as a man starts creating doubts and suspicions on her mind, the expected response from her is normally to be that of worries assuming she is really interested. Again, by purposely creating so much doubts and suspicions on her mind, the mind gamer is trying to find out how she will react if ever she hears something not so great or something dark about him. She might also start worrying if you have heard something dark about her too…
He wants to see for himself if he can trust you. He wants to know how you react to gossips and hearsay. He is interested to know if you can actually think for yourself and discern the truth by separating the facts from the chaffs in the various circulating tidbits you might hear.
Any interested lady will want to know what is going on with her man. She will try to prove him wrong by showing him how loyal she can be and in the process, she might even reveal something secret about herself that he never knew which might even be the reason he launched this type of mind game in the first place, you know…?
***EVIL GRIN***
She will demand almost to the point of going hysteric that he tells her everything that is troubling or bothering him.
And then, he will be convinced that she is seriously concerned.
But on the contrary, if she is not showing any sign of concern, that means she lacks feelings which means she is not interested which means she is not caring which means she’s anything but loyal or trustworthy!
Be careful how you respond to this type of mind game. One wrong move and you can come off as someone who is not dependable or trustworthy and worse still, slander-loving.
It’s might also be the best time for the guy to review the future plans you earlier had together to see if you still featurin’.
Becoming Disinterested In Sex
One weapon women have over men is in sex. Men are insatiable and sometimes a man’s hatred or contempt for a woman will not even prevent him from having sex with her. That is one reason why prostitutes are still in business.
To him it’s just physical.
But when your guy who used to be all over you in the bedroom suddenly develops this inexplicable lack of sexual interest with you, then something must be amiss.
He knows you are supposed to be worried. And that means you are going to ask him for some explanation/s.
And if you do, it shows that you are observant and intuitive as well as ready for and interested in suggestions for improvement on whatever could be the cause of this worrisome development, as the case might be.
A big plus for you, I tell you.
But if you don’t?
Well…well…well…
Last Word
Some people, in fact many people, ‘specially women do hate the idea of someone playing mind games with them. They might think they are being “used” as pawns in such games.
Which might be true or not.
Besides, it is a very risky game to play. You may never be able to decipher what he is playing at and that means one daft wrong move and the whole cookie starts to crumble and fall apart like a pack of cards.
So you should be on the look out for some of these signs and master how to counter attack with superb deftness using that natural, powerful and potent gift of female intuition.
Always remember that mind games are normally launched without prior warning. So that is one very easy way to determine if and when the heat is on. When you notice this sudden and most awkward change in his behavior towards you, that is when you should tighten your seat belt and get ready for this type of ride which could get very unpredictable and awry.
The key is to NEVER say or do something that is quite unwholesome, immoral, irresponsible, mindless, harsh or regrettable. Always bear in it mind that sometimes, some (wicked) men are just looking for ridiculous excuses to break up. Please don't give him one real reason now…
As unbelievable or as funny as it may sound to you, I am fully aware that playing mind games can be used to cement any relationship and make it even stronger.
This is because as a psychological warfare, it can serve as an adventure or avenue to enable you to know who you are dealing with in the relationship. It can help you to build trust and love, access her mental capabilities in reasoning, thinking and understanding, as well as knowing your partner's emotional strength.
Oh, I almost forgot, it can be FUN because it can also provide the lovebirds with something to talk about, joke and laugh about later…most especially after that wonderful make up sex!
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